Using Skillful Questioning in Negotiation
To develop a successful negotiation strategy, you have to know your counterpart's needs and goals. Skillful questioning will help you gain this information.
When to Ask Questions
When is it helpful to ask questions during negotiation? You should ask questions to:
- Gain information. Don't assume anything when you are negotiating. When you don't have all the information, ask questions to fill in the gaps.
- Check understanding and interest level. Ask a question to uncover how technically sound your counterpart is on the topic you are negotiating, or how committed she is to the outcome of the negotiation. For example, ask whether she will take a specified amount less than the asking price.
- Determine behavioral style. Ask questions to find out where the other party is coming from, if he is an experienced negotiator, and whether he is an honest and/or decisive person.
- Gain participation. When you ask questions, you encourage the other party to talk. This makes your counterpart like you better-and helps you learn more about her than she learns about you. It's especially helpful to get your counterpart to talk when you realize you have said something she didn't agree with or understand. Having a chance to talk it out will have a calming effect on her.
- Give information. Sometimes you may want to provide information that will help your counterpart understand your goals. For example, you could ask, "Did you know that the Kelly Blue Book value of your car is only $2,100?" (This type of question can also be used as a test to see whether your counterpart recognizes if your information is correct.)
- Get an opinion. Questions that ask for someone's opinion not only provide knowledge, but also indicate that you are interested in what that person has to say. For example, ask, "Can you tell me why you like living in this neighborhood?"
- Bring attention back to the subject. Appropriate questions can keep the conversation heading toward your goal. Salespeople often ask personal questions about a prospect to find a starting point for their presentation. This is fine, but eventually you need to discuss the real reasons for meeting. Asking questions like, "Can we get back to the salary issue and benefits package once again?" refocuses attention on the important issues.
- Reach agreement. Asking questions can help you find out how far apart your goals are from your counterpart's. For example, suppose a seller is asking $150,000 for his house. You ask whether he is willing to take $140,000, since the house needs landscaping and a new roof.
- Reduce tension. If negotiations start to become tense, it can be helpful to ask questions about your counterpart's viewpoint. Understanding his concerns may help you restructure the negotiation. For example, you might say, "Every time we talk about mandatory drug testing for all employees, you seem to be adamantly opposed. Can you share a little about why you are opposed to this testing?"
- Give positive strokes. Simply put, positive strokes questions make your counterpart feel important. Suppose your counterpart has received three phone calls from complaining customers during your fifteen-minute meeting. You might ask, "Are you having a tough day?"
Using Skillful Questioning in Negotiation By Peter Stark
Copyright © 2014 Peter B. Stark
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The Negotiator Magazine December 2014 - January 2015